Monday, July 22, 2013

Prayer request for Colton

Hello friends, I don't have any deep thoughts to share today. I only have a simple request: that you would continue to pray for my precious son. He is really struggling right now to understand why his dad left him and there are a lot of emotions that we are handling. Anger and sadness are definitely the most prominent. It is all normal and a part of the healing process. Kids process grief so differently from adults and Colton didn't have the luxury of understanding for two years what was about to happen. He is just truly beginning to understand what this all means. 

Please pray for me, too. It rips me apart to see Colton so torn about it and when the grief causes anger and misbehavior, sometimes it's hard to discern what is normal toddler behavior and what necessitates further conversation with him. I certainly need wisdom and guidance to weather this particular storm. I am so grateful for your continued bringing us before the throne. 

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

Praying for you Kendra, and for Colton, and your whole family. This is such a deep, dark, valley to go through, but I know the Lord is with you and with Colton, too. I pray that, as you cry together for missing Ryan, that God himself brings you comfort that is real, and peace that is unexplainable. A friend told me that peace translates to - tranquility of soul. Whatever your grief brings - anger, quiet tears, or loud shouts of frustration, may God meet you with His peace and love in the hardest places, and remind you of moments of joy in between. We pray for wisdom, grace, and strength for the daily challenges and hurdles. We are friends of your parents-in-law and send our love and sympathy to all of you. Jaye and Larry Beatty

Earlina said...

Praying for the both of you right now! Thanks for sharing your heart, 1Pet 5:7

Anonymous said...

Dearest Kendra,
Thank you for requesting prayer for your precious Colton. Jesus' Father had to leave Him for a little while too. Praying for God to give you wisdom and discernment as you not only walk "through the valley" but you help Colton too. Remember He takes us THROUGH. He doesn't leave us there.
Much Love, Care and Prayer,
Donna

Nan Kubicek said...

You and Colton are both in our prayers, Kendra. Continued cyber hugs for you both!
xo
Nan

Anonymous said...

My heart and prayers go out to you Kendra.... This is such a sad time for you and Colton to have to deal with. I wish I had words of wisdom to share with you that would help you both. I don't know if it would help, but you might want to try feeling OK with just telling him, "Mommy loves you so much, Colton" some of the time. He's just a little guy and doesn't always really need or want a long explanation. Sometimes he might just need to hear, "I know honey, I miss Daddy too! I could sure use a big hug right now!" This might help him to understand he's not going thru this all alone. You might add, "I'm sure glad I have you to give me hugs!" I'm sure you have already tried things like this...I just so desperately would like to help you in some small way, and this is all I can think of right now. I think of you so often and wish I could somehow help you. This has to be so very difficult for you. Don't be too hard on yourself....you have a lot of love in your heart -- just keep giving it. As long as Colton knows he is loved he will be just fine.
Grandma of Five

Anonymous said...

Saying prayers for both of you.

Carol Dodds said...

Sending prayers for each of you. God loves you and will send you the wisdom to deal with what comes your way.

Kathie said...

Thank you, Kendra, for sharing this request, and know that we will pray specifically for all those emotions going on in Colton's little heart. May the Lord continue to pour out His comfort, strength, and wisdom to you!

Anonymous said...

Dear Colton, may you grow up knowing and feeling the very special love and faith walk your parents had together, and your mom will continue to have. I have to repeat the best verse in the bible Romans 8:28 (your mom already referred to this)in a post...God is a great God and he is faithful in his promises for the protection of generations. I am praying along with so many others that you get the peace you need in order to enjoy your childhood days.

Beth VDH said...

Kendra, I am so sorry for this journey you find yourself on, and for the pain and ache of everything. As adults it's hard enough but for a little guy like Colton, just is harder and sometimes I'm sure it feels impossible. I will continue to pray for you both but especially little Colton.

Anonymous said...

Continuing to pray for you and Colton.

Darryl Jones - DJ said...

Kendra, my heart aches as I stand helpless to aid the family of one of the best friends I've ever known. To not be able to "DO SOMETHING" is a man's Achilles heal. My single source of comfort is in knowing our Father God has not forgotten your works of righteousness...that HE IS WITH YOU, and will NEVER LEAVE/FORSAKE YOU OR COLTON ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIVES! As I continue to pray for you both, I'm also comforted to know our GOD is able (and faithful) to do exceeding abundantly above all that we can ask or think, according to His Power working in you (and it has been and continues to be amazing to witness HIM work in and thru you...it both ministers to and challenges me). Finally, we can rest in the dynamic duo... that He has a plan for you two that involves good and not evil (Jer. 29), and that each and every situation must end in GOOD for you and Colton...and GLORY for God. Know that our church and prayer team at Detroit World Outreach, and a whole host of others continue to present you before the throne as a sweet fragrance to God.

Blessing to You!
Your Praying Friend & Brother,
Darryl Jones aka D.J.

Anonymous said...

Kendra,

I am praying for you and your son.
May God give you all the strenght you need.

Timo

Anonymous said...

Kendra, from a psych perspective all this is natural. At this age a child's parents are all that is important. The best advice is to be honest and remind him that you are there. Give him all your love and share his grief. Remind him you are in the same boat but that the two of you are in it together. It will give him power to take care of you as much as you need to take care of him.

Milla Watts said...

Dear Kendra,
I am new to your story. A friend just sent me a link to this page because it reminded her of the things that I am currently facing. Sometimes I wish God didn't trust me so much. Yet I know its HIS strength that carries me through.

Thank you so much for being there for your son. I have nothing profound to say, I will not insult you by pretending I know anything that will make any of this better.

May God Wrap you and Colton in his arms of love and compassion. May your heart be soothed. May God give you discernment on what Colton needs from you.

Love and Prayers