Seasons, guitarist, women, and cancer treatment....
What do they all have in common?
A certain rhythm.
Treatment, scans, results, treatment, scans, results, etc
This cycle has gone on for a year now. Every two to three months we have the dreaded "S" word... SCANS.
What are scans like?
Starting about a week or two before the appointment, what if thoughts, doubts, and worries start to creep into your mind like a spy. Sneaky and Deceptive.
As the day approaches anxiety rises until the day before I go into a kind of quiet sullenness. The weight of tomorrow builds and builds. Was that ache or pain real? Is the cancer spreading? How much longer can we ride this like we have?
As we arrive at the hospital I go get the actual scans late in the afternoon. Now I have an evening to kill. Often times we'll hit the mall or watch a movie. Trying to find a distraction is a waste of time, but we still try. There's a weight on my chest and I can see it in my wife as well.
Sleeping is usually not an option. Kendra and I are in a sad competition to see who is more wrestless. Tossing and turning, wondering what tomorrow will hold.
As I wake the next morning, sometimes I forget what I'm doing for a second. Then it comes slamming home like an asteroid what is in my future. Is the chemo working? Do we need to change? What if the cancer is spreading?
So many questions.
Breakfast is bland. My thoughts are racing. Then we head up to the Dr's Office. Minutes drag on as we wait for our names to be called. Sometimes I read scripture on my phone, other times I play mindless games. I can't really focus on anything for very long.
Deep breath, here we go, back to the examination room.
Now is the worst part. It's probably only five to ten minutes, but it feels like hours. Everybody that walks by gets your heart up.
I try to discipline my mind not to expect anything.
Hello Ryan, how are you? Well I looked at the scans and......
I hate scans, but through the process I have learned the importance of disciplining my mind. I can't control the results. I can however control what I do with the scary thoughts, the worries, and the anxiety. I can cast all my cares upon Christ. I can also will myself to be positive.
Maybe it came from losing so many games in sports, but I have an uncanny ability to stay positive and choose not to be overwhelmed by my circumstances.
What are the "scans" in your life? Choose your attitude no matter what. It's the only thing we can control sometimes.